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Question New hand raised budgie not bonding/eating out of my hands why?

After two weeks since my new hand raised budgie came home, I've just been able to get him out of the cage (perch on my finger) without too much resistance from him trying to get back on his cage perch. Now I've tried bonding with him and trying to get him to eat out of my hands but whenever I try he tries to flee or doesn't move. I've tried so many techniques and it's not working. What should I do? Should I take him back to the pet store to get an exchange? Shouldn't hand raised budgies be able to eat out of my hands and want to bond right away?

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From your initial post, it appears this is the first time you've owned a budgie - is that correct?

It truly distresses me that you would even consider your budgie to be a "returnable/exchangeable" item.
Budgies are not disposable pets.
When an individual adopts a pet, it should be for life with the commitment to giving that animal the best possible care and love no matter what.

You've only had your budgie two weeks and say you've tried many taming techniques during that time. It would have been better to do more research prior to bringing your budgie home.

In actuality, all budgies - even those that were "hand-raised" need time to settle into their new environment before you begin trying to work with them.

Budgies are often submissive at first simply because they are terrorized and from your description -- that is exactly how your poor little budgie is feeling at this time.

Taming and Bonding is all about helping your budgie learn to trust you and it takes a great deal of time and patience on your part.
You should never grab your budgie or force him to be touched.
To bond with your budgie, you need to build his trust in you.
He will have to learn over time that you will not hurt him, grab him and try to force him to allow you to hold him.

To build your budgie’s trust, sit by his cage and read, talk or sing quietly to her for a period of at least 10-15 minutes, 3 or 4 times day. After the 2nd or 3rd day, rest your hand on the outside of the cage when you talk to her so he'll learn that your hand is safe and will not hurt her .

After a week, rest your hand inside the cage when you talk.
Don’t make sudden moves, don’t try to touch her .
Let his get used to the idea that the hand is now in his safe place and not harming her .

After 2 weeks, begin moving your hand slowly toward your budgie. If he becomes agitated, stop moving your hand and just hold very still until he calms down. When he's comfortable with your hand near her , you can offer her a bit of millet or a few seeds. In a few more days, you can begin your taming and bonding sessions.

Always work at your budgie's pace.
Move slowly and talk reassuringly and calmly to her whenever you interact with him .

Most budgies once they pass the "baby" stage, do not like to be petted or touched.
If your budgie does like to be petted, you should only ever pet his head, neck or chest area.
Stroking a budgie's back and/or tail stimulates its breeding instinct. Bonding means allowing them to choose to be with you.

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Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post. Firstly, I'm only considering giving my bird back to the pet store because if my bird does have a problem he could be better taken care of as I have no experience or knowledge of taking care of a budgie. Secondly, I paid 60$ for a hand raised budgie. His personality is like that of a parent raised budgie which only costs 16$. That is why I want a budgie that "is immediately friendly and able to be hand fed" according to my pet store. I feel like I haven't gotten my money's worth. Over the past two weeks I've followed a bonding procedure almost exactly as you outlined and he's still like when I first got him. Also FYI, I wouldn't make a commitment with a budgie that I know that I couldn't take care of. That's why I like to think of the first month with my budgie as a trial run. If he doesn't like me or my environment or is uncomfortable, he'd be happier to be with someone else as he is only 7 weeks old and therefore I could be happier with a budgie that is comfortable with me.

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Taming and Bonding takes time and patience no matter whether the budgie was hand-fed, co-parented or completely budgie raised.

Every budgie is a unique individual and has his/her own personality. No two budgies will respond exactly the same way in any set of circumstances.

For your pet-store to intimate that a hand-raised budgie is going to be "immediately friendly and able to be hand-fed" is unreasonable.

I have nine hand-raised budgies and none of them were "immediately friendly".
[and the price charged for each of mine was about triple what you paid. ]

Additionally, even hand-raised budgies will reach a point in adolescence where they become much more independent and less inclined to want to be handled except on their terms.

If you are looking for validation for your desire to return your budgie to your pet-store, I can't offer that.
You will need to search your heart and make the decision you believe is best for you and your bird.

Best wishes!
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thank you, you have opened my eyes and I realized that you were right. Deep down I was looking for validation to return my bird to the pet store. I guess my bird is unique, as is all birds and I just need to have more patience with my bird rather than giving up and getting another one. Thanks!
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You are most welcome.

I'd love to see a picture of your little fellow if you have one you'd like to share. What have you named him?
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His name is Max.

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Patience really is the name of the game with budgies. I found that it was a lot easier if I focused on where I was with my budgie in 2-3 month intervals vs. where we were week-to-week. It's better for both you and the bird to see where you are in 90 days vs. day by day or week by week. The latter is way too much pressure for both of you, & the bird can definitely sense that kind of pressure and it's *really* intimidating. Someone I know who has a very human-bonded budgie said " slow and steady wins the race. " Remember that there is no rush, no arbitrary deadlines, it's not a contest, no time limits... it's about the long haul. I would say my budgie was probably very uncomfortable the first month or two, given his new surroundings. And, once I realized I was pushing him too hard, I took many steps back and went slow. I let him set the pace. I decided to look at where I was with him in 6 months vs. "next month." Once the pressure was off, & he felt comfortable... he really blossomed. I've had him 4 months. There's a long way to go ( if I want to work on recall training, clicker training etc. if he finds that fun, I'm not going to do it if I don't think he's enjoying any of that) but for a companion pet that lives 10 years approx/avg. ....we've got plenty of time.
Take it very slow and follow your bird's lead, & you both will be a lot happier. Your bird sounds very scared and understandably so. I could show you video of my bird after at least a month where he still looked anxious. He wasn't fully settled in yet & I don't blame him. A new home all by himself is a lot to take in. Now he is very comfortable & laid back ... and he continues to grow and evolve every month. This is most definitely a long haul situation.

The fact that your budgie with step-up is a big deal. That's good. People spend months on end teaching budgies to step up. If your busgie is already doing that.... that easily saved you a ton of time, & is worth what you paid. You should relax and get to know your bird and the world of budgies. Would love to see a pic.....

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Awww, Max is a cute little guy!!

You'll want to be sure to read the information in this thread to ensure you have the right kind of perches, etc. for his cage.

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I'll be looking forward to seeing you and Max around the forums!
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He is a very cute little baby. He looks very sweet. You're going to have a lot of fun working with him and watching him grow.



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