Dallas is Gone

[softie]

It came as a complete shock to me and I'm not sure how to deal with it.

I looked inside her cage and it was empty. I searched frantically around the house but there was no relief.

Unitl my dad told me that he had let her go, set her free. He had no explanation, except, that it was because I was being punished.

My computer ban is on again, which means I won't be able to come online everyday. It's horrible and I'm still trying to figure out what went on.

All I know is that Dallas is not with me anymore and I don't know where she is. I've searched everywhere, inside and out. But I can't hear her little chirps anymore.

This is extremely hard on Grace because this is the second time he has lost a close friend. After losing Christmas, his most favorable companion, he rejoiced with Dallas. And now, he calls for her but she never returns them back.

I love you Dallas.

January 2, 2007 - May 7, 2007

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[Trust]

OH! i am so sorry to read this softie i am really shocked ! i would think about anything but this ! but you are a grown girl , i dont understand how he does this !

sorry again ....

[misslinda]

I am shocked!!!!!!!!!!! Is this in your dad's nature, to do something so extreme?
I can't tell you how sorry I am. This is just unbelievable :eek:
Linda

[BabycakesKristen]

I'm soo sorry! That is so incredibly inconsiderate of your dad to do... Using the life of a precious bird as punishment? I can't even imagine what you must be going through! I really hope that you and Dallas will become reunited by fate and that she is safe from harm. Let us know if there is anything we can do. My heart cries for you. :sad3:

[Jessika]

What? Punished for what? I'm incredibly upset by this. I don't think that you or Dallas could have done anything so terrible to deserve something like that. Wow, that makes me so angry.

Is Dallas clipped? From those pictures I'd say yes. I'm sure you know what to do already, like put an open cage with treats inside it outside. Put up posters or something. My radio station has a couple of times during the day where it talks about pets that have been lost to help people find them. Maybe call a radio station and the spca and stuff.

It makes me so angry to hear about parents doing stuff like this. But I can only imagine how terrible you must feel right now. Just stay strong, and don't lose hope.

Praying for Dallas.
Jessika

[sammy2850]

awwwwwwwww no im so sorry poor you i hope you and dallas become reunited aswell when i seen this thread i thought that she had died but then i read this and i hope you find her and please keep us updated.

[Nikoletta]

What? How he could punish you through a living creatures life? That's horrible and I am shocked to read it.. Maybe Jessika is right, you could put some posters with her pictures to central points (bus stations etc), inform all the families around yours and play some announcements via radio.
Ehm, is there any chance that Dallas died and your dad tried to keep it secret from you so you won't be so sad? I really don't know what to think, but I wish with all my heart for the best for Dallas and you..
Hugs from Athens :budgie:

[star-24]

softie i am so sorry for your loss of dallas, i really hope there is even a slim chance you find her, i cant believe your dad has let go one of your flock as punishment!
any of my family know all my pets are off limits (unless they want to spoil them) please let us know how your efforts go and fingers crossed you find little Dallas
((hugs)) xxx

[Bea]

OMG!! I am speechless. I would MURDER if one of my parents did that to one of my babies. I am SO sorry. :( What a cruel, cruel loss.

I'm sure you already know, but make sure you put up posters at as many places as possible. Pet shops, vets, flyers in letter boxes. Don't give up. An empty cage outside with lots of food could lure her back too. I REALLY hope luck is on your side and she comes back.

[ms3greta]

I am speechless.

I don't know if there is a tactful way to state this, but wouldn't the action border neglect or animal cruelty? To me, it is the same as letting a dog run loose without proper care.

I really hope she returns to you Softie.

[Jessika]

It doesn't border it. It is animal cruelty.

I found a website from Long Island for a Parrot Club and I guess you can post pictures of lost birds. I couldn't find the link myself but someone is helping me with it. I'll post it as soon as I get it.

Really hoping the best for Dallas and for you.

[Jessika]

http://www.liparrotsociety.org/lost__found.htm

There it is.

[clifff123]

I am speechless like all other forum members. When I read your dad let it go, I said, what are you kidding me, what up with him. I am a father and would never do that to my child. I don't know your family situation but you are 18 and an adult. I really don't know what to say except I'm so sorry you lost Dallas. I guess I better shut my trap or I will say something I would regret

[pal0m1n0]

Time to leave home. Pardon me if I am being too personal here, but where is your mother?

[BUUZBEE]

OMG Aaralyn.... I just dont know what to type. I just dont understand what the hell parents are doing lately!!! I've read other posts about this being done, and zarrions bird being given away without his ok. I just dont get it!!!

palomino... i am pretty sure Aaralyns dad is paying for her schooling, and has said before he wont pay if she doesnt do as shes told (the cheerleading orders by him)

I am hearbroken by his actions, and i cant beleive he did this. I find him now to be cruel and heartless, what the hell did dallas do! Aaralyn, do you pay rent? if you do, put a lock on your door, if you dont, start, and then put a lock on your door! in the mean time, put a lock on your birds cage!!! I know i'm mumbled up with my typing, but i have a lot of emotions going on.... i am livid with him & i dont even know him!!!

[Rosie]

A punishment?? Couldn't he have banned you watching telly or going on the computer for a while instead of doing this. It is cruel. That is definately not on. Ok, I don't know what the circumstances were that caused your father to let her free, but it is still is wrong. :( :( This is a birds life. You don't just chuck it out into harsh weather conditions it is not used to. :( You must be a patient and forgiving girl, because if that was me, and they released one of my darlings, I would be pratically kill them :(

But still, like Bea said put up adverts in the local paper, shops, websites, anywhere!! I wish you the small chance that Dallas will return. :(

[Amy]

I really really really hope that she somehow finds her way back! :( Poor little Dallas! Poor you as well Aaralyn! I hope she is still alive and someday you can be reunited!

[pal0m1n0]

I still can't get over how someone could toss out a bird that can't fly. It boggles the mind.

Has he been making threats that you thought he would never carry out?

[BUUZBEE]

I still can't get over how someone could toss out a bird that can't fly. It boggles the mind.

me neither :(

[redgirl]

I am really sorry to read this message Aaralyn, you must be so distraught. I cant imagine why your dad would do such a terrible thing but this is so unforgiving. If I was you sweetheart I would try and move out if this is how he is going to behave, next time you come home you may find he has done something else so terrible. seding lots of hugs to you because I know how it feels to lose budgies this way I am still greiving for mine who I lost. :(

[SushiGURL]

OMG that is horible! Why can't parents understand?!?! I hope you find out why you got in trouble so you can explain to your father what he did wasn't right.

Ahh I'm so sorry, I know how much Dallas meant to you and your flock :(

P.S Great pictures! I'm sure you'll treasure them forever.

[BUUZBEE]

What makes me the most mad is the fact that he saw how devistated you were when christmas passed away. So for him to do this is just plain spiteful.

[ZoologyGirl]

I am in complete shock. I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know how anyone can disregard the feelings of their child and essentially kill something they love. How long ago was it? Perhaps if you put it's mates cage outside that is calling for it it may return the call.

[A-n-M]

I'm in awe and completely upset at this situation. How can a parent bring such grief into their children, is just so bewildering to me. I still can't even get it through my head that someone would do this. I'm not going to say he's a horrible person for doing such a thing because I don't know him.

She's clip and that part just scares me that she could be walking around somewhere. Hopefully someone has found her. What I'm questioning is to why your father went after Dallas and not the others?

I am so sorry to hear this Aaralyn and I'm hoping in some cosmic way Dallas makes it back to you.

[Kalahari]

OMG...I'm so sorry. That's just wrong. I really hope she finds her way back to you.

[softie]

Thank you everyone for you condolences. It hasn't hit me until last night of what has happened. I've been bawling my eyes out ever since.

The reason why I was punished was because of school problems, and you guessed it, the dallas cowboys cheerleader dream of mine.

I want to tranfers to a Texas college so I can finally live my dream, but in the near future. He just didn't understand what this meant to me but I wasn't about to give up and so, I kept on fighting back and held my ground.

And now, because of me, Dallas is lost and away from home.

I just don't understand, I don't get it. How can someone be this cruel? Why punish Dallas and leave her to die? It just doesn't make any sense to me.

Thank you for your ideas on leaving posters and I have to say that I've already spread the word. I've contacted each of my neighbors to call me asap if they've seen a blue/white bird flying around.

Yes, Dallas is clipped but her primary flight feathers have been growing out. She can't fly but she can definitely reach some height and glide.

I feel so guilty and terrible and I'm not so sure I'll overcome this. Christmas passed away because of an illness that I wasn't able to cure in time. Dallas is lost. It's unbelievable.

Once again, thank you for your generosity and kind words, it really means a lot.

I will try to keep updated on anything, and I'm praying that Dallas is safe and will return home.

[Jessika]

I'm seriously choking back tears. I've been sitting just trying to think of something, anything, to say.

If I were you, I'd have a few words with my father. You know he could be charged with animal cruelty because of what he did?

Did you try the cage thingy outside? I've seriously heard of this working.

Please keep us updated on how things are going.

thoughts your way
Jessika

[Star]

Oh, softie, this is so sick. To you, and little Dallas both. I can't even imagine anyone doing that as a punishment to their child. I would be so angry with my father, I probably wouldn't be able to talk to him for months upon months. That IS animal cruelty and hopefully your dad realizes this sick act.

It boggles my mind how someone can do something so cruel. I am soo sorry. I hope you can find little Dallas quickly. please keep us updated!

[BabycakesKristen]

Time to leave home. Pardon me if I am being too personal here, but where is your mother?

I would also pack my bags that very second and leave!! I don't think I would ever speak to my dad if he did such a cruel thing... I honestly think that your dad's actions can be considered animal cruelty. Why must a living breathing animal suffer for his daughters punishment? It's completely irrelevant... I'm going to keep my mouth shut now..... ugh.

[Joe1]

aralyn, i am so sorry to hear this news. it may be a good idea to sit down with your dad and tell him that he should never do this again...after all, he cant let go of a budgie every time you have an argument. let him know how sad and angry you are but also that releasing budgies doesnt work and isnt right.
i really do hope she is found.

[BUUZBEE]

I would also pack my bags that very second and leave!! I don't think I would ever speak to my dad if he did such a cruel thing... I honestly think that your dad's actions can be considered animal cruelty. Why must a living breathing animal suffer for his daughters punishment? It's completely irrelevant... I'm going to keep my mouth shut now..... ugh.


Well, speaking as a mom, I DONT suggest this. Right now, education is the most important thing. By moving out, her dad could be spitefull and stop paying for Aarlyns schooling, thats not going to help her or bring back Dallas. (I am assuming from previous posts that her dad pays for school) I can only suggest she gets a lock for her cages/room.

[Joe1]

i couldnt agree more, anna. well said.

[Saz]

How can anyone do this!? I'm so so sorry about Dalls, and I really really hope there is a way she'll find her way back to you.

I don't think your granpa would toss you on the strees as punishment if your dad did something to piss him off... I'm guessing your dad is the type of person that doesn't see an animal as a living being.

As many have said before, if my parents did this, I'd probably go for murder x__X
Your dad needs to understand that your birds are your children, and not a disposable toy that he can toss away as punishment >_<

[pal0m1n0]

So, am I understanding this correctly? Because you want to go to school in Texas and try to become a cheerleader, he tossed Dallas out the door? Unbelievable!

Are you in highschool now or a college/university? I moved out of my home when I was not quited 17, but I was heading off to university and had scholarships and student loans/grants , plus the costs were lower then. But from that point on, I never depended on financial support from my parents again. Which isn't to say there was a huge rift, they could not have afforded to support me and I didn't want to ask it of them.

Point being, I guess I think that if you really want to go, there should be some way to finance it without depending on your father. It might be harder and it might take longer. Then again, maybe I am completely out of touch with reality. :)

[Nancy]

As a parent, I know that dealing with young adults can be very challenging. Your dad was very angry with you for something, to do what he did. It sounds like maybe you might need an impartial party to help you and your dad through this. Perhaps a counselor could work with both of you to find better solutions to your problems.

[BUUZBEE]

Are you in highschool now or a college/university?

I could be wrong, but i think shes in college/university

*just went back & read Aaralyns posts about cheerleading, and yes, shes in university (freshman)

[Donna]

Aaralyn,

I am hoping that perhaps your Father just phrased this as I "Set Dallas Free" but that he didn't really just open the door and let Dallas go. Maybe he said it that way to make you think he did let Dallas go, but maybe he really took Dallas to someone else to keep him for the time being until he cools down and things are resolved. Do you think that is possible? Maybe it would be good to just sit down with him and ask him exactly what he did, and then ask him why he went to those extremes?

Any way you look at it, this is a very strong form of discipline that most people would question. I guess I am stunned that he would do such a thing considering the fact that your parents are really big on reptiles and they take in reptiles that have been unwanted by others. If his heart is that big that he would open his home to abandoned reptiles, why would he set an innocent Budgie free? I'm sure the reason that he is punishing you by taking Dallas away is because you want to be a Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader and the sound of Dallas's name makes him all the more upset.

I'm very sorry Aaralyn. :S I wish I could help you and make things right for you.

Donna

[jamesam16]

Softie, I feel so sorry for you. I hope Dallas does return back home. I agree with Donna, you should probably have a talk to your father about Dallas and also about your cheerleading. I hope everything goes out ok. Good Luck:)

[peekaboo]

Dear Aaralyn, I am so sorry to hear that your dad has been so cruel and uncaring towards you and innocent Dallas. I know how much it hurts to be treated so badly. I once got a beating from my mom for giving milk to some kittens that we had, My parents rarely bought pet food,only when they felt they had money, if they didn't, the cats had to fend for themselves,(the dogs went hungry too) I don't even know how many times my mom hit me. I know that I was only 12 and I was black and blue for a week. My mom was very hard on me and always treated me like a bad kid, I was her outlet for her anger, even though she calls herself a christian. It is so hard to know that your dad has hurt you so cruelly, I wish he could really understand how painful this was to you. I know that if my mom had done it to me I would never be able to forgive her. I wish I could help you get Dallas back, and to repair the damage your Dad has done to your relationship. My thoughts are with you and Dallas! Sincerely Tina Marie

[Marsheliah]

Oh my gosh. How could anyone be so cruel, let alone a father? A punishment does NOT and should NOT EVER include hurting or killing anything. Poor little Dallas. I'm so sorry. Personally, if it was me, I would have been screaming by now. If I came home to find Ollie, Stardust, or Charlie gone, I have no idea what I would do. I'm so sorry Softie. Poor little Dallas. Oh my.

[Budgiekin]

I am so sorry to hear about this Aaralyn. I would be devastated as I know you are. I couldn't imagine being in your shoes.....:(

[animalrie]

How could this happen??? This really infuriates me! I am soooo sorry. I will think of Dallas for you. Poor baby!

Sorry.....

[pipp4]

awwwwww
i am soooo sorry
if my dad had done that i would hate him!

i am guessing your dad isn't a fan of budgies?

[Azul]

Ooooh, poor Dallas! I feel soo sorry for you Aaralyn, I hope you find her! Let's just hope for that she will find her way home, and that she's in a good condition wherever she is..

[softie]

Thanks everyone once again for the condolences and your generosity though this hard time. :)

I will be closing this thread.