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Budgiekin
01-15-2007, 10:51 PM
Firstly, I would like to address the drama that appears to be occurring on this forum more and more frequently.

As a community of people of all ages and of all backgrounds, who share a passion for budgies, I am disappointed by many of the threads that are started here as of late that have to do with personal vendettas or hurt feelings. I am disappointed also by those threads that quickly turn into a "who hates who" fighting match or an "I'm right, you are wrong, so do what I say" situation. This is NOT the intention of this forum, NOR CAN IT CONTINUE this way if we are to stay successful, to strive to improve, and to continue being an inviting place to share our experiences (and our inexperiences).

For those of you who are criticizing the moderation (or lack thereof) here, may I please remind you that it is IMPOSSIBLE to have a moderator on at all times, 24/7, to stay on top of EVERY single thread. There are well over 350 posts per day on here, so it is difficult to read every single one. Even with many more moderators, it would still be impossible. Besides, don't we as members have some accountability for what we ourselves say here? Absolutely!

The bottom line is that we (meaning the community here as a whole) count on our members for a lot of things.

We count on EACH ONE OF YOU to:
maintain a certain decorum here, a certain degree of politeness and respect......If we can't do that, then we would have an awful place to be.
exercise good judgment in dealing with other people.
be sensitive to others' feelings.

make your own decisions, to take or leave the advice given here, and to educate yourself as much as possible about the things you are wanting to know more about.
to post responsibly, without personal criticism directed at our fellow members.
be accountable for your actions and posts you make.As you can see, we count on ALL of you for so many things.

Most of us have nothing but the best intentions at heart here, and unfortunately, sometimes those intentions are either misconstrued because of using a wrong word, or because another member interprets advice as a personal attack. If you don't like someone's advice, then simply don't take it. Don't turn it into an argument.

For those of you who are participating in the "drama" here on Talk Budgies, it has got to stop. If someone here is bothering you, stop feeding the fire by posting a reply. Be the better person and let it rest. Why precipitate a hurtful situation, when it can easily be avoided by simply refraining from taking part.

If I see this drama continuing and you are a part of it, you will be receiving a private message from me (or one of the other staff members). Consider it to be a private warning. If that doesn't send you the message, we will take further action, which may include a temporary ban (for a day or two), or a more serious one lasting several days or even weeks. Also to note, we will not hesitate to close threads when needed.

I'd like to close by saying that we ALL have a part to play in making this place an inviting community to be in. Opinions are welcome, but personal attacks are not.

Happy posting everyone.

P.S. I recognize that the vast majority of members here ARE already being respectful and are trying to help our other members. I ask that you also recognize this. Remember that it is only a very small small handful of people who are disrupting the ebb and flow of our forums.

sammy2850
01-15-2007, 10:59 PM
thanks for adressing that matter.

alicia
01-15-2007, 11:22 PM
understud.........

Babyluv12
01-16-2007, 12:19 AM
You're right...This site is about our budgie/avian obsession not our own vendettas...it's a waste of time in my opinion to take things personal...Also for those of you that may feel offended about comments made think before you post-I am brand new to the site and noticed a lot of people take things personal..>Keep in mind that besides using smileys it is hard to determine if a comment is made in a harsh matter or not. Otherwise this site is great! Glad I found it....

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/157/359123035_5032c9efce.jpg

AFTER THEIR BATH
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BABY
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Bea
01-16-2007, 12:33 AM
For those of you who are participating in the "drama" here on Talk Budgies, it has got to stop. If someone here is bothering you, stop feeding the fire by posting a reply. Be the better person and let it rest. Why precipitate a hurtful situation, when it can easily be avoided by simply refraining from taking part.
Can i just say on this topic that while this in itself is easy what makes it super hard is when other people reply saying everything is fine and irresponsible actions will have no consequences. :) I think most of us are trying to be more sensitive and avoid name calling fights.

Budgiekin
01-16-2007, 07:04 AM
Can i just say on this topic that while this in itself is easy what makes it super hard is when other people reply saying everything is fine and irresponsible actions will have no consequences. :) I think most of us are trying to be more sensitive and avoid name calling fights.

I'd like to make a reply about this comment Bea, but I've got to run to work. I will revisit this when I have the chance.

Thanks. :)

redgirl
01-16-2007, 07:21 AM
I must of missed something because I have not even seen any posts that have been deleted. I admit though sometimes the posts do get heated which is what we expect really on a forum but sometimes I have noticed that the post will have stopped and then others add to it so then it escalates again into a fight. I have not known anyone throwing insults before so I really cant say all I have ever read is passionate members expressing concerns. xxx

Ruta<3
01-16-2007, 08:47 AM
redgirl, your lucky you missed last nights drama, One thread went on and on and being to harsh and hating eachother. It started with a anouncment of getting a new bird. -.-


In the month I have almost been here the family bond on this form is deteriating.

Come'on memebers :D Forgive and forget the past and work towards a bright budgie filled future!

i<3mrchirpydoodlebirdy
01-16-2007, 09:48 AM
Thank you so much for this thread! I think it was well due for something like this to be said to the members. xx

Nancy
01-16-2007, 09:55 AM
All I have to say is "Amen".

Amy
01-16-2007, 11:51 AM
Thank you for saying that Budgiekin. :)

softie
01-16-2007, 03:13 PM
Thank you Budgiekin :)

I think that everyone of us, whether we were a part of any "drama" threads or not, should re-evaluate what we post in this forum. In my opinion, some of these arguements happens when one person posts something they didn't see in other perspectives and when another does, it turns into a big dilemma.

All of us can benefit from taking a minute or two to check over our opinion-based posts and be safe as possible.

vicks080
01-16-2007, 04:44 PM
This is totally not acceptable at this forum vicks080! We do not tolerate such language for young or adult members. It's not pleasant for some to read. You will be receiving a private mesage warning soon! Edited by Zarrion Walker

redgirl
01-16-2007, 04:47 PM
Your language is a disgrace and so are you for speaking like that on a forum that many youngsters use. My daughter who is 9 years old likes to have a look on here with me and I am so glad she is not here to read this message from you, you leave we will lose one and gain another 50.:mad:

Amy
01-16-2007, 05:17 PM
Uhhh! Victoria, that is totally unappropriate! :eek: You should be ashamed of yourself!

You mustn't go around saying things like that!

SushiGURL
01-16-2007, 05:17 PM
yeah,... SORRY EVERYONE!

:)

Baby5566
01-16-2007, 05:19 PM
STOP: we are NOT going to reply to this and add feul to the fire, we are going to wait until someone gets on and can remove these responses and close this thread. Let's LEAVE IT.

Amy
01-16-2007, 05:19 PM
Back to what Budgiekin was saying, ignore that post, it shall be delbt with as soon as possible.

Amy
01-16-2007, 05:19 PM
STOP: we are NOT going to reply to this and add feul to the fire, we are going to wait until someone gets on and can remove these responses and close this thread. Let's LEAVE IT.

We wouldn't close the thread. :P We've delete that post and carry on talking about what Budgiekin was saying. :)

vicks080
01-16-2007, 05:55 PM
What if I were to remove the 'word'? It still wouldn't make a difference on how members act towards me.

Baby5566
01-16-2007, 05:56 PM
What if I were to remove the 'word'? It still wouldn't make a difference on how members act towards me.

Let's talk, send me an e-mail. xlizmillerx@gmail.com

vicks080
01-16-2007, 05:59 PM
No, I don't want you knowing my e-mail.

Baby5566
01-16-2007, 05:59 PM
Well I tried, good luck with whatever it is you are trying to accomplish here.

BUUZBEE
01-16-2007, 06:06 PM
Liz, let it alone, she will have to deal with staff. As they say, she's made her bed, now she has to sleep in it.

Thanks for fixing it Zarrion

zarrion101
01-16-2007, 06:07 PM
No problem, I had a feeling something was up soon as I logged on the computer.

vicks080
01-16-2007, 06:15 PM
I'm not trying to accomplish anything.

zarrion101
01-16-2007, 06:17 PM
I'm not trying to accomplish anything.

If you have a problem, then just report it or contact a member of staff. We respect every member's opinion and if you have a personal issue it can be dealt with straight away with direct contact. Plus if you're angry just calm down and come back in a few hours or something. This forum is not there for that.

vicks080
01-16-2007, 06:23 PM
I will in fact contact Dave later tonight.

Dave
01-16-2007, 08:01 PM
I've said it many times before, and I'll say it again. Read and re-read your posts before you submit them. Put yourself in other members' places. Even if what you say doesn't offend you, think about if it might offend others. Imagine saying what you type in your post to your boss, your teacher, etc. I hope everyone thinks before they speak. So I hope you all do the same with posts. This is especially true on the Internet because other people might not always get a sense of sarcasm, humor, whatever you intended to post.

Also, you guys can help the staff out by using the report feature. If a post offends you, hit the report button (next to the Karma button). This way, if staff members aren't currently online, they'll be aware of the trouble posts when they do come online. I wasn't online when whatever went down occurred. Luckily, I saw a lot of reported posts so I knew something was up.

On the same note, I'm not speaking for all the staff, but I know I don't view every single thread on the forums. So if a thread gets heated up and that's a thread I haven't read, I'm completely unaware of what's going on. By reporting the trouble posts, I then become aware of the situation.

That's all I'm going to say. Just be aware that as these types of instances start occurring more often, the staff will become stricter and will take action against offenders.

BirdieBabi
01-16-2007, 08:04 PM
Also, you guys can help the staff out by using the report feature. If a post offends you, hit the report button (next to the Karma button).

Oh my gosh! I forgot about that! Ooops!

i promise I'll use that next time (lets hope there isn't a next time though!)

BUUZBEE
01-16-2007, 09:16 PM
i totally forgot too, i had only pm'd palomino :o